I fell off the wagon. I have not blogged every day as I intended for the last thirty days until I enter my fourth decade – my forties. Perhaps my expectations were unreasonable.
I have learned a few lessons since I last blogged…or maybe I just learned them again...
Lesson One: Wait for it, it will come
Lesson Two: Never count anyone out, there’s always a saved round
Lesson Three: Do not forget that although friends (or associates) may present to the world differently than you know them, it’s ok. It’s not my job to point anything out or reveal anything. Everything in its own time and season. Besides, you have your own life to live. If we spend our time minding our own business, we should be engaged without the time for fault finding.
Lesson Four: Don’t get too comfortable.
Lesson Five: Keep practicing appreciative inquiry. Keep doing what works and stop doing what doesn’t work.
If you are like me, you have unfinished projects and business. Now is the time to reinvigorate what lies dormant. He that has given you the idea or concept has empowered you to complete it. The Time. Is. Now.
We only have one life to live. Life consists of choices. HOW we live it is our choice. Failing to choose is still a decision, perhaps not a quality decision but one nevertheless. I had a pastor who once said that although you can choose to jump of a building but you can’t choose which bones you will break.
We have free will but it comes with responsibilities. You owe it to yourself to make responsible decisions. Consider this – how you live or lived in your thirties will determine how you live in your fifties. Don’t delay, finish those projects or start that business. You hold the key to next door. Choose wisely.
Have you ever eaten a dish and said to you, “something is missing”. You can’t quite put your finger on it but you know there should be more and there is something else that will add to the taste or your experience to make it complete.
It is the same way with our lives. We get so far and then we think we can’t go any further. I am CONVINCED that the Missing Link is COMMITMENT. I often may stop short when something is difficult, uncomfortable or distasteful. The truth is you will never grow beyond where you are without being uncomfortable. I am sure you have heard the saying, “if was easy, then everyone would do it”. This may seem trite or even flip but is a simple truth that bears a significant amount of weight.
I spend a lot of time listening to motivational speakers or reading their books and/or articles. One key lesson I have learned is that setting the expectation and committing to it is a path to success. We have to be committed when we are tired, when we think it costs too much (mentally, physically, financially etc…). We have to stay committed when others walk away or laugh at us. It doesn’t matter who judges us, addressing that takes precious time that you do not have to spare.
In my coaching sessions, I tell my clients if what you are doing does not put you closer to your top three goals, you shouldn’t be doing it. We all have twenty fours a day but how we spend it will make the difference. I am not saying don’t have balance but have priorities and goals with timelines. Give your success laser focus for even a week and I guarantee you will see things beginning to shift.
We one have one shot at this life that we have been given. God gave us all talents that are sufficient to accomplish our purpose. I do not believe that if it is a God-given purpose that He did not equip you. I am not saying it will be easy but you have the most powerful force in the universe on your side. How can you lose?
What is gratitude? I believe it is one of the most basic principles in life. The active practice of gratitude will open many doors as well as your heart and eyes.
If you are unsure how to start keeping a Gratitude Journal - just pick up a notebook or attractive journal or create one online. One year my sister gifted me with a beautiful journal that serves me as a reminder to be continuously grateful for her and my life. Open to the first page and begin with the very basics:
Thank you notes go a long way. Take a few minutes to write a specific thank you. You will be surprised how well it be received...
If you still need more inspiration for your Gratitude Journey - please take a few moments to read this profound article by John Kralik http://www.dailygood.org/story/511/a-grateful-heart-john-kralik/. It inspired me.
30 to 40
This year, in thirty days, I will turn forty- years old. I decided a few weeks ago to blog about my last thirty days in my thirties. It is the end of an era and a phenomenal time in my life. Over the last decade, I have been places I never dreamed I would be and done things that I never even could imagine.
I am determined to live better and be better through conscious, accountable living. I am only competing with myself on this journey and no one is better at being Rhondra than me. God has uniquely equipped us to live abundantly and to serve others. It is our time, each day is a gift, no matter how mundane it may seem.
"I have an opportunity to make a dream a reality" and each day I push it a little further. I give myself permission to excel (as my Creator has commanded), to reach my goals, and help others along the way, "to whom much is given, much is [STILL] required".
I have to take what I have in my hands (it's all I need right now, in this moment) and use it to reach even higher. Each day, I expect to do more, love more, give more, and be more - it's the expectation that sets the bar. I owe it to myself and those who are waiting for me to step up and into the unknown.
By now, you may have realized that you need a life coach or at the very least a plan. Below you will find a simple plan to jump start your move into a new direction.
Step 1: Find a quiet space
Step 2: Bring your calendar, note book or binder , computer (if appropriate), and plenty of writing utensils
Step 3: Place three to five separate pieces of paper on the table in front of you
Step 4: Think carefully before you take the next step. On each piece paper, write down your goals such as Finish School, Get Organized, Launch a New Career, Get Healthy…
Step 5: Re-evaluate Step 4
Step 6: For each goal, articulate the following:
Step 7: Re-Evaluate Step 6
Step 8: STOP. The only missing step is COMMITMENT. You will need to find an accountability partner to help you with Step 6. Your plan is a living document, refer to it often. Honor your commitment to yourself. You deserve it.
Rhondra O. Willis, Ph.D. is an author, accreditation specialist, Ph.D. Chair, investor, and publisher. She is a lifelong learner who believes that to whom much is given, much is required.